Grab a cup of coffee, read and rest

cup of coffeeIf sitting down, reading and resting sounds good but is a foreign concept, then this site is designed for you.  Growing up with a single working parent and a brother for a number of years, my mom used to call herself “Wonder Woman”.  I always found that a bit humorous because she looked nothing like Linda Carter and definitely did not walk around in tights.  But the reality is she was a “Wonder Woman” of her time.

A couple of changes have happened since the 1970″s with the addition of the personal computer, cell phones, email, cable TV, the internet, and iTunes instead of cassette players.  The number of divorced families in the U.S. has quadrupled since the 1970’s and the number of single parent families has more than doubled.  Half of all workers are now woman compared to 36% of the 1970 workforce.  Talk about change.

Today’s “Wonder Woman” is juggling the pressure of more stuff, more communication, more responsibility, greater possibility of a divorce, greater prospect of being a single parent, and greater job expectations, all with less time and less energy.  It’s time to get renewed.

So strap on your “Wonder Woman” belt, grab some coffee, read a blog, and rest for a few minutes to catch your thoughts, focus your mind and renew your faith.  All of the blogs are short, sweet and to the point while the articles are a bit more in-depth.  The devotionals are here for your convenience to encourage you to grow spiritually.

And by the way, I would love to hear from you.  If there is a topic of interest, concern or curiosity, please let me know and I’ll respond.  May this site be a blessing to your life.

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Five Healing Steps to Take After Your Pastor Falls

fallen crossThe news is out. Your Pastor did something completely out of character. Perhaps they had a physical or emotional affair, stole money or misappropriated funds, secretly abused a family member, or hid an addiction. Whatever it was, it has devastated the church, shocked the community and perhaps destroyed their family.

Understandably, you will experience conflicting emotions and racing thoughts as you process what has happened. This is a normal response as you begin to grieve over the loss of your Pastor. Here are some of the possible reactions that might occur.

“My Pastor couldn’t have done that.” Usually the first initial response is to disbelieve that your Pastor could have done anything like this. After all, who wants to believe that any Pastor is capable of such a thing? Nothing makes sense. The person you know and trust doesn’t match with the accusations. So, you refuse to acknowledge the evidence. This is why denial is a powerful defense mechanism because it allows you to disregard information that is contrary to your belief system.

“How could my Pastor betray us like this?” Once the realization of the truth has settled any remaining doubt, you become angry. There is outrage that a Pastor could do such a thing, irritation that others did not foresee it, frustration that you trusted, and infuriation that God seemed absent. It is not uncommon to experience feelings of wrathful vengeance. While some anger is normal, don’t allow it to take over and control your behavior. If it does, you could act in an equally inappropriate manner as the Pastor.

“If only I said something sooner, this wouldn’t have happened.” When the anger simmers down, the “If only…” game begins. In a desperate desire to control the outcome, you begin searching for ways the problem could have been prevented. You relive the past hunting for warning signs that could have signaled the trouble. But all the deals you make for the future cannot change the current situation. Your bargaining is in vain.

“What’s the point of going to church?” The frustration that there is nothing you could have done to change the outcome quickly leads to sadness. The once joyful church becomes gloomy as members disappear. Hopelessness begins to settles in as you become more aware of the vulnerability of believers. Positive outlooks are replaced with melancholy as the whole thing seems like an illusion. The entire church including the individual members suffer through depression.

“I guess the verse, ‘All have sinned,’ really means all.” Ironically, it is only through a storm like this that the full meaning of the Gospel becomes transparent. If sin did not exist, then Jesus would not have needed to die and no one would need forgiveness and mercy. It is the fullness of the Scriptures that transforms lives, not just the bits and pieces that are more palatable. True acceptance acknowledges the susceptibility of all church members to sinful behavior, including yourself and Pastors, and supplies ample grace.

Most importantly, be gracious to yourself. These steps take time to process and healing should not be rushed. Each needs to go at their own pace; this is not a time to compare journeys. Rather it is a time to show love for one another through patience and kindness.


There is hope for your exhaustion.  Repairing, restoring, and rebuilding relationships takes time, energy and effort.  If you need more help during this process, please call our offices at 407-647-7005 or send me a quick email at

Nutella Cookies





This is a simpleNutella cookies recipe:

2 eggs

1 cup of brown sugar

2 cups of flour

2 cups of Nutella

Preheat oven to 350.  Beat eggs, add sugar and flour.  Mix until blended (batter will be clumpy).  Add nutella and mix together.  Shape cookies into balls, place on ungreased cookie sheet.  Bake for 10 mins.  Makes 36 cookies.